Cunning Stunts

#21
Panama 3

My family moved to Panama in the beginning of 1977, about a week before my seventh birthday. My sister Tina was 14 and my sister Tricia was 4. One of the first memories I have of Panama is arriving at Tocumen Airport and seeing flocks of hundreds of tropical birds, all flying in circles around the rows of palm trees that faced the airport. The sky was always amazing in Panama—variegated shades of pink, fuchsia and coral against crystalline blues. We later learned that the birds fly in frenzied circles, en masse, before a big storm hits.

It rains for almost 8 months out of the year in Panama. We had to get used to the smell of mildew everywhere, no matter how much bleach my mother used. And it’s hot there. I remember the rain ponchos were horrible plastic, like they used to make Halloween costumes out of, and had a few holes punched under the arms for ventilation. But I would always rather get soaked than wear one. And the rain could hurt your skin; the drops were so big and fell with such force.

When we finally got settled in our new home it was the dry season. My parents decided to build a pool and changing room behind the house and the whole time it was being constructed we’d play in the widening muddy hole. There were piles of sand for mixing into concrete. The sand was hauled straight from the beach and the workers had giant sieves they’d constructed of chicken wire and rough wooden frames. They’d sift the sand through, over and over, and we’d scoop up all the shells that would drop along the mesh.

The back garden was lush, verdant even. Anything could grow there—well almost anything—we couldn’t have our daffodils and snowdrops and tulips—our darling flowering bulbs from England. In Panama, the flowers were hibiscus and bird of paradise and bougainvillea. We found strange pods and blood red berries growing all over. We’d try to tame everything into cultured beds (bordered with the scalloped shells we took from the construction piles), but nothing obeyed. It was literally the jungle back there.

We found frog spawn and tadpoles in the hole that would eventually be our pool and put them into a giant tank on our patio. Once the pool was finally finished, we did little but swim from the time we got home from school until late in the evening. Sometimes we’d even go out before school in the morning for a swim and we’d find an iguana (a giant one), overcome by the chlorine and floating listlessly in the pool. We had a long net on a pole that we’d scoop it up with and we’d dump it out near a drainage ditch on the edge of our property. It would sit, barely blinking in the sun until, re-energized, it would shake itself off and slip away.

Two monkeys in particular spent part of each day in our trees. A small, ginger-coloured one was sweet and friendly and we named him Jeffrey. The other was much bigger and had black fur. He was always mean to Jeffrey and threw mangos and coconuts at him and sometimes us. We named him Joe. My father’s name is Joe.

My sister Tricia and I played make-believe from all the books we read. She had bright red hair and freckles and related strongly with Pippi Longstockings. So when we read that she had a tree that grew bottles of lemonade (or maybe it was ginger beer), we tied glass bottles of Squirt in the branches of a mango tree. When we read Harriet the Spy we immediately started a spy route over the walls and fences of the neighbouring properties. We were not allowed to leave our back garden, but sometimes, when we knew the neighbours weren’t at home, we’d climb into their yard and run around.

There was one incredibly tall wall, all the way at the back of our property and we could never climb it. After trying to get to the top of the wall for a few years, my sister finally succeeded. I had boosted her as high as I could and she’d found toe and finger holds in the bricks and lifted herself to the top. She called down to me, “Teresa, it’s like paradise!” And that’s what we called it from then on, paradise. With her help I scrambled my way to the top and couldn’t believe my eyes. They had a tiered fountain that splashed down into pool after pool (there had to be at least 6 or 8 shallow pools, each bigger than the last, the smallest was bigger than most toddler wading pools) creating a cascading waterfall through their property into a huge and deep swimming pool. After seeing it, we were obsessed with the idea of playing in that garden.
 
#22
My Gausus class was great as usual. I feel very free to play anything when I’m in there and when I need to be reined in, I trust the gentle way she does it. Christina has an incredibly positive energy that’s infectious. I really like the group and we’re getting to know each other’s styles and ranges.

We do this one warm-up, a variation on many games I’ve played with other teachers (Reynolds has us play Superheroes with a few different poses and we have to juggle them all). We’re in a circle, Christina gives us a category, like countries, and one person starts by saying, “Canada” to the person on their right. This continues in the circle until everyone has said a different country to the person on their right. The next time around you are supposed to say it with the person who originally said it to you, and clap once in unison. Then another two categories get thrown out there and again you develop a pattern. You end up turning back and forth between the people on either side of you, saying words together until you can do it faster and with few mistakes. As with all these sorts of warm-ups, when it’s really cooking, there’s an electric spark that passes between us and it can actually be thrilling.

Luckily this class has been on Saturday afternoons, my attendance at my Monday night group has been terrible of late. I had a late temp assignment yesterday that kept me from going and we’ve had to meet with realtors and see apartments other times. But I love that group and want to get back into the swing of it.

I wonder how Dave’s show at CIF went—I’ll bet it brought the house down. I have to start work with him on his Spank show. I hope there’s a way for me to still be out front, in the audience and produce at the same time. I love to watch him tear it up. Plus my laugh is loud and should be part of the din of applause he’s sure to get.

Mother's day dinner went over famously. I loved making them my dish that garners me wild compliments and marriage proposals. It didn't fail to this time--Jed's mom asked me to marry her after tasting it. I adore her and pretty much the rest of the family (that I've met). They are good folk.

I got a commission to do a glass mosaic piece for Alex’s brother’s wedding gift. I’m excited to do the work—it’s been a few months since I made one. We’re going to get together and figure out what he wants done, the colours and the design, this week. I miss the days when I had a studio space in the meat packing district. I secretly loved walking on the cobblestones (which hurt my feet) past the swinging bodies of butchered cows, climbing up the creaking wooden staircase (which was covered in lardy and bloodied cardboard and kitty litter), walking down the long hallway, to the space I shared with three other artists and there I’d work for 10 hours a day, days on end, shivering or sweating in the poorly heated room. I hated the smell and seeing the carnivorous pigeons in the street under the meat hooks. But I loved feeling like I had to suffer a bit to make the art and that was an incredibly silly and romantic notion, but I’m quite glad I had the experience.

Today’s lyrics are from Tori—the song Mrs. Jesus—Corey and Blake and I listened to this album as we drove across America that fall and once we got back to the studio we kept it in heavy rotation while we set up our installation about the trip.

he found me in a state
grabbed my purse and hitched a ride
with a mrs. jesus "how you been"
i've been cruisin' a good invention
but in some ways
i don't think it gets any easier
your walking on the water bit
by far my favourite one,
but now it seems we're drowning
in a drop of water love
and even as i'm climbing up the stairs
i know there's heaven there
 
#23
Spring is like a perhaps hand

I am loving this weather. It's easier for me to handle the humidity this year. Last year I just fantasized about getting back to CA.

As much as I want to get off the temp agency rollercoaster and get a steady job, I have really enjoyed my days without an assignment. I wake up when he does, snuggle sleepily for a while, and after he's left, I luxuriate in bed until I'm ready to get up. I climb the wrought iron spiral staircase to the roof and bask in the sun during my first cigarette of the day. Then I run back down to get ready. If I'm not working I can bop around in shorts and little skirts, light sleeveless blouses and tank tops and comfy sandals. I enjoy doing all the little errands that I don't have time for when I'm working full-time. And after I've done what I need to, I can stroll down, past Union Square to his office and have lunch with him.

I also love doing the little things that make life just a bit nicer. I have been pampering us and it's nice to have the energy to do extra, non-necessity things. He is unbelievably thoughtful and sweet with me, so I've been feeling inspired to make him happy too. Life truly is amazing when you give over to the positive in it. His family, friends and co-workers want to know what I've done with the curmudgeonly little bastard they all used to know and tolerate. He's so much like his dad, not just in looks, but he's got that same true blue thing--that same devotion.

We met with Michele to write again last night. I think we have a few viable ideas for a show. After we shot the shit for a while, we watched his movie, No Sleep 'Til Madison. Mo and I loved seeing the boy play, essentially, himself in a real movie. It made me feel really proud of him. I loved the footage of his audition--his hair was adorable--Michele said it was a mullet, but it wasn't really--it was just a little long in the back.

I'm trying to decide if I should go out to CA this month to get rid of some of my stuff in storage. Plus I miss my buds. It would be good to see the family too. My grandma has been on a walker for months (she broke her foot) and now it looks like she'll need one for the rest of her days. I feel very sad. She still has an acre of land behind her house where she's kept her garden for 40 years. It's been years since we let her prune her apple trees, but she'd still try to get out there with the god damned roto-tiller whenever no one was around. She's in her 80s, diabetic and has lung problems, but she won't slow down. She's been doing aqua aerobics for 15 years almost every day and like I said, she's kept her garden going, no matter what her health was like. She's had the most amazing life--I'll have to write an entry dedicated to Frances Coffey. That reminds me to write about my great-aunt Emerita, who's 102 and still got her marbles--she was also an amazing and strong woman. Both of them were mavericks and awe-inspiring.

Hopefully I will start on the mosaic piece for Alex next week--we still have to meet to design it, but I've got some ideas. I am excited to start working with my hands again. I'll probably do the work up in Westchester, in his parents basement. While I'm there, I'm going to start on the Joker lamp for the boy and on custom pieces for Michele and Sarah. Those ladies are beyond fantastic and I feel truly blessed to know them--they're lovely raisins.

Today's lyrics are for them, from Tori:

Never was a cornflake girl
Thought that was a good solution
Hanging with the raisin girls
She's gone to the other side
Givin us a yo heave ho
Things are getting kind of gross
And I go at sleepy time
This is not real--this is not really happening
You bet your life it is
 
#24
Using that ee cumming's line for the title of the last post made me remember that I've been meaning to post this poem for a while. I haven't seen El Jefe's poetry thread in a month or so, and I'm too lazy to search for it.

Parlour Piece

With love so like fire they dared not
Let it out into strawy small talk;
With love so like a flood they dared not
Let out a trickle lest the whole crack,

These two sat speechlessly:
Pale cool tea in teacups chaperoned
Stillness, silence, the eyes
Where fire and flood strained.

--Ted Hughes

I've also been meaning to find some Brautigan and more cummings.

And I've been meaning to say, just for the record, that mere linebreaks do not a poem make. That was one of the most annoying things about TA'ing several poetry and creative writing classes in college. So many people just spewed bullshit and called it poetry, without a feel for language or voice or even the subtle. Others tried to shock with poems about violence, hate, or sex, but there was nothing to them--no craft, no art. Sure it's expression, but is all expression valid? I suppose if you are in therapy, it's useful and valid, but does that mean anyone else should read it? Susan taught me to try to find the gold in everything, but even she couldn't always find a kind thing to say about some of the pieces we had to grade.

My favourite was when people would say they didn't want to read the poetry that came before them--so they wouldn't be influenced by it. That's laziness and/or arrogance, plain and simple. I've thought about this a lot, especially when it comes to writing, but also with other arts. Delaney was fond of saying that conflict resolution was useful in therapy or improv that was used for therapy, but not in comedic improv. It's similar with painting--Picasso could paint something seemingly simple or naive, but he earned it first by being able to paint in super-real detail.
 
#25
Fox fur vs. cashmere

It's surprisingly cool today. The atmosphere is a bit oppressive--it's probably going to rain. I hope I'm not getting sick--I feel a weird tickle in my throat and lungs, and my ears hurt a little.

I have been thinking about the way we all affect each other. I try so hard to keep myself positive, no matter what comes at me, but sometimes I can't help but succumb to the negative. Sometimes it takes loving support to remind me of all the good I have in my life. Sometimes that reminder comes from a surprising source. I appreciate all the people who have come to me on this board. I am impressed that you are sentient enough to create a bridge with a stranger--no matter what you've heard about me. These are the days I have faith in humanity.

I've been thinking about my own critical eye and my strong opinions about what I care for in this world. There are way less hot buttons now than I've ever had, but there are still many things that can get my dander up. I can't stand to see people attacked unfairly. It's bad enough when it happens to me, but I can't stand to see those I care for hurt by viciousness. It kills me to remain complacent while there are injustices, but I also know that I can't fix the world.

When I worked with retarded adults I was an advocate to be reckoned with. I fought the system for my clients in a way I'd never think to fight for myself. And the victories came rarely. No system is without flaws, but the world in which retarded people exist is terrible. And everyone thinks they are doing what's best. Sometimes it's what's best for the institution, sometimes it's what's best for the individual. In the end, no matter how much fighting we did on behalf of the people, budgets always got cut and freedoms were taken away. It was devastating to know what was right, from being on the frontlines, and not be able to impart that to the powers that be. Or to impart it and have them not care.

I'll get off my soapbox about the DD community--it makes me too sad to think about it. I miss my guys.

I have really been thinking about going back to school for some trade that I don't care at all about, to earn my living. I was thinking about real estate, but then I interviewed last week at an agency to be an apartment show-er. They hired me and then started talking about the different lies I HAD to tell in order to work there. I know that not every broker is a scumbag, but I couldn't even make it through the training with the guy who hired me. He was horrible. He said: "If you're not comfortable lying on a daily basis, then this isn't the job for you. I know it [lying] can be hard to deal with, philosophically, I mean, I was a philosophy major in college, so I know." I told him I'd really have to consider whether or not I wanted the job and he snatched a 3 page list of lies I had to tell out of my hand before I could leave with it. I won't sell my soul for anything--certainly not a job. But if I can set him up I will freelance an expose about his ilegal practices.

Oh it's nearly time to see my love. It gets better as the time passes. I have never felt so good. I am truly grateful and blessed.

This weekend should be lovely. Class tomorrow and the game on Sunday. I will outwardly root for the Yankees, but inside I'm a Mariner fan--it's a matter of west coast pride. But I'll take the SF Giants over anyone (even though I can't stand Bonds). This is ridiculous--I don't even care about baseball. That's not actually true; last year, when the cubs had a shot, I felt very emotionally involved with their struggle and even cried when they lost once. It's that whole underdog thing.

Today's lyrics are from the Verlaines, but I'm using them because Barbara Manning covered this song and she's a huge baseball fan--it's called Joed Out:

It's ten o'clock in the afternoon
You'd better come by here soon
Or I'll go out of my mind
The wind has been unkind
Somebody had untied all five
And locked them in my room

Don't do anything important, you said,
With anybody else
They fuck it up for you, my friend
But out in your bed
When I touch your head
Your hair is as soft
As the cashmere* you wear
And my head,
It feels sweet again,
My friend

Sitting here drinking wine
You know I'm smoking all the time now
And it's hard living your life
On the knife's edge
You either cut your feet
And die where you bleed
Or you fall off the edge

Don't say anything important, you said
To anybody else
They fuck it up for you my friend
But out in your bed
When I touch your head
Your hair is as soft
As the cashmere
You'd wear
And my head,
It feels sweet again,
My friend

*in the original he says fox fur instead of cashmere, but that disagreed with Barbara's politics

This is one of my all-time favourite songs and I had the honour of singing it at the Bottom of the Hill years ago with those now-defunct indie-darlings Ampersand--RIP.
 
#26
Dynamite

I am feeling incredibly good today. Another screening of Napoleon last night made me realize that it is possible to tell a small story. And if you believe in it, you can make it compelling and moving, without the big actors or budget. It was good to meet up with the folks from the IRC and their significant others. Steve and Adam are very nice fellows and it's good to put faces with screen names (even though I'd met Steve in a class and seen Adam in a student show--I still didn't know who they were on the board).

I sent my resume to some publishing companies that I would love to work for. I am hopeful about my prospects. If I don't get something steady soon, I will have to set up an art studio somewhere and start turning out the mosaic pieces. I can make crazy money doing it and I love it, but the chemicals really get to me--they make my fingernails all grotty and I'm covered in dust after a few minutes. Still, it's very fullfilling to work with my hands and make something beautiful.

We're looking at apartments on the UES tonight. If we can get into a doorman building with a pool and gym it would be pretty amazing. I love to swim. This is the longest period of my life that I've lived without access to a pool. Or, at the very least, an ocean to swim in.

Jeff's boyfriend is buying an apartment in Paris and I am thrilled about it. It may be a while before I can get over there, but I love the Autumn in France and wouldn't mind having a holiday there every year. Especially since it's only a quick jaunt to England from there. I miss my sister Sarah and her two beautiful little girls and I'd really like to visit them more often. I didn't even get to see them when I was there a year and a half ago.

It's been 3 or maybe even 4 years since a significant part of the family has gathered in England. It must have been my Uncle Jon's 50th birthday party. And I almost didn't make it because Bryn and I were traveling through Northern England and Scotland and then we stopped in the Lake District. We were supposed to be there for 2 or 3 days and ended up there for a couple of weeks. We just couldn't bring ourselves to leave that magical place. We got back to London the evening of the party and left for France at 4 AM the next day, after partying and dancing all night long. The family showed up from all over the world for that party and they are some incredible people. I think Jon and Joanna's house in Purley had more than 400 people in it (and outside of it in tents) at the highest point of the party. And almost everyone brought their own gear, so we were rolling joint after joint. It was funny to smoke in front of my dad--what could he say? I think he may have been the only person in the family NOT smoking. Well, Uncle Paul, who's a librarian in Wales didn't either, that I can remember.

This weekend some of my dear friends in SF are cleaning out my storage space for me--this is a huge and daunting task and I am so grateful to them for doing it. There are some really good people in my world. How'd I get so lucky?
 
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#27
We all shine on

Love is in the air....

Mo got her job and I got a temp-to-perm position that I'm pretty excited about, so all is well.

Met the boy for lunch today and my fortune cookie read:
:) You have inexhaustible wisdom and power :)

I feel so much hope and that's incredibly powerful. Sugar wrote to me the other day that she has hope for all of us, but I can't go that far. There are too many cruel people in the world who actually enjoy inflicting pain on others. I would like to have hope for them, but I'm not that evolved yet.

Finally the weekend is upon us. I plan on spending lots of time in bed, with brief breaks for class and food. I think this is the 2nd to last Gausus class and that makes me sad. It's such a supportive and rich environment. But Christina is a kindred spirit and I am sure she'll be in my life for a good long time.

I'm taking a hiatus from my Reynolds group. That makes me sad, too. But I need to get my stuff sorted out before I can commit to anything else. Once I've gotten settled into a job and found the perfect nest for me and the boy to cozy-up in, then I'll be ready to go back to it.

I want to continue the Panama chronicles--I appreciate all of you who have contacted me about the stuff I wrote--I will have a new installment soon. I want to write about the late '70s and how my older sister was a disco queen while I learned to skateboard. I also have a lot of memories of England and Tunisia and some of the trips my family went on that I'd like to write about, but I'm gonna finish the Panama stories first.

I've heard some ridiculously funny stuff--that there are people who read my journal, scouring it for stories "about" them. That's awesome and sad at the same time. I can't imagine anyone so self-absorbed as to think that I would bother. That's what Charlie Manson thought--that the Beatles were talking to and about him--sending hidden messages. I promise that whenever I mention a three-toed sloth, I'm not refering to anything except a three-toed sloth. And I'll throw in a little piece of advice, to boot: People who listen at doors seldom hear good things about themselves--especially if they need a hearing aid.

I'm doing my part for the election--I am now, finally, registered to vote in NY--I was doing it absentee from CA, but I'm not going to live there any time soon, so I gave in. I also told my friend who runs one of the NY chapters of the Kerry campaign that I'll volunteer for him. I'm thinking that I'd also like to work for Rock the Vote. I did this years ago in SF and it's really cool to know you've helped people get the chance to make themselves heard.

Now more than ever, John Lennon's words ring true:

Instant Karma's gonna get you
Gonna knock you right on the head
You better get yourself together
Pretty soon you're gonna be dead
What in the world you thinking of
Laughing in the face of love
What on earth you tryin' to do
It's up to you, yeah you

Instant Karma's gonna get you
Gonna look you right in the face
Better get yourself together darlin'
Join the human race
How in the world you gonna see
Laughin' at fools like me
Who in the hell d'you think you are
A super star
Well, right you are

Well we all shine on
Like the moon and the stars and the sun
Well we all shine on
Ev'ryone come on
 
#28
Panama 4

Thirst

I used to lie as a child
in the thick jungle grass behind our house
and try to get a moon tan
to be as pale as I could
I spent hours searching the stars
trying to find my seven sisters
secure in the strength of Orion's Belt
I suffered the insects
who mapped their own red constellations
across my body
I let myself be consumed
Perhaps it was the wet smell of the tropics
or the pull of gravity so near the equator
or maybe, it was just the wild of childhood
but I was awake and savage in the night
and the liquid in my body moved in tides
controlled by the moon
I gave as much life as I took
I only took what I needed
I broke the teacup holding the sky
and let the stars pour all their light
into my saucer mouth

I wrote that poem in one of the first workshops I did with Susan Browne over 10 years ago. I was in Marc's car, saw a full moon, and had to scramble to write it all down--it came so fast. I actually thought it was just a doodle--it didn't seem finished--but when we got to Susan's house that night and I read it to the group they insisted that I keep it. I don't believe I changed a single word of it. It was one of the poems that won me a chapbook contest a few years later and got me into the Squaw Valley writer's conference (which was the most thrilling poetry experience of my whole life. I got to work with most of my living heroes of poetry--Bob Haas, Sharon Olds, Galway Kinnel, Lucile Clifton and Marie Howe. And I met some of the best poets/people I have ever known, there--they're still friends of mine 9 years later.)
 
#29
Get a life, put it in your song

I don’t know what I want to do for a living. I’ve had jobs I really cared about. Working with mentally retarded adults was just about the most difficult and yet rewarding job I’ve ever had and I did that for the better part of ten years. And when I worked for the record label, I believed in those bands so much, I have rarely felt so devoted to a job. There were shitty jobs that I loved anyway, like working for Tower books, because the social part of it was awesome. Buffalo Exchange was like that, too, plus I got first dibs on the coolest clothes. For that matter, Q Records was pretty great for a high school kid, and there I got first pull on tix and killer promos. And I loved working at the little coffee shop in SF, knowing what everyone liked to drink and making it as they walked through the door.

There were few jobs that I actually hated, although my very first was certainly one of them. It was at Long John Silver’s and I was 14. I worked there 3 days before quitting. The manager wouldn’t train the girls on the cash register and he made me scrub vats of lard. I gave all my friends free shrimp and then split. When I first moved to CA I was a telemarketer for a roofing company and fuck, but that was a shitty job. And then getting hired as an Assistant VP at the bank—that should have been a dream job. The money was dreamy, but the rest of it sucked. I didn’t hate writing for the newspaper, but I did hate going to all the bars that I’d never have gone to, if it hadn’t been assigned.

I’ve done lots of small arty things for work, like designing and making jewelry, sculpting, re-finishing furniture and making mosaics. That was probably the most satisfying. I have always loved using my hands and being my own boss.

Then there’s the work you don’t get paid for, like volunteering for the homeless in Oakland—that was pretty difficult, but wonderful. And I was probably the happiest when I was producing and directing my movie, and that sure as hell will never make a dime.

As I temp and send out my resume, I realize that I’m not driven to do anything that I can make money at. I love to improvise—yeah, fat chance at ever getting paid for that. And I love to write poetry, which is only slightly more lucrative than improv. I love being a producer, which could pay off someday, but no time soon. So what’s left to me? I am lucky to be able to do many things. But I want to find something I love and just do that—and get paid for it.

And I am blessed. I know it. I’ve survived more adversity than one soul should have to in a lifetime. I’ve come through the fire. I am loved like never before. I have the most incredible friends a girl could ever want. I live in my favourite city in the US. I am young and strong and healthy.

I will find it, or it will find me. I will be patient, but I will not be complacent.
 
#30
I am really delinquent in writing about improv stuff.

We didn't have class this weekend, due to the holiday, but last week we had Doug Moe as a substitute and I really liked the way he coached us. He also had us sing a song he learned in 2nd or 3rd grade, Head, Shoulders, Knees and Toes, and it's been stuck in my head ever since.

Christina left him an exercise for us to do. She had written different characters on slips of paper and we had to begin the day of that character, silently, from the moment of waking until walking out the front door. Once we'd left home, other people in the class had to initiate scenes with who they thought the character was. I was given "23 yr old wellfare recipient" and I found it really hard to mime her without being obvious and racist. I liked the exercise, though. It helped me see how to know my character right away--by asking what does this person's day start like.

I saw the Historicals last night--drug the boy out with me, kicking and screaming. As usual, Thunder blew me out of the water. It was so funny to see him using the modern-day lingo in character. Rasputin was pretty strong, too. I thought the whole show would have been funnier if everyone had kept to their chosen characters, but everyone went in and out of them.

I'm very excited about Thunder's Spank show--I feel deeply grateful to be producing it because I really believe in it and him so strongly.

And tonight Sarah is coming up for Harold night, so a bunch of us are gathering and watching it with her. I can't wait to see the teams--it's been quite a while.

I'm hoping to put a show together for the gang to do. I want to play with the peeps I love the most.

My temp job will probably not turn perm because the owner wanted to be sure I wouldn't leave to "make it" in improv. I laughed and tried to explain that no one "makes it" in improv--least of all me, but I don't think it matters, she wants someone who wants to be an accountant some day. And I don't. And I can't lie about it.

It will come. Thanks Snit, for the words of encouragement.

I am happy to be helping my friends this week--they need lots of Girl Friday sort of stuff done and I am good at organizing and producing. And the pay is good, and under the table.

We are still looking for the right nest. I have to believe that will come too.

It's been a while since I posted lyrics so I should probably include something profound, but all I can think of is the chorus to the Guided By Voices song that's been stuck in my head for months now:

Hey glad girls
I only want to get you high
 
#31
One long pair of eyes

I'm trying to be better about writing about improv. I've been meaning to write about a show I saw several weeks ago. Everyone was a seasoned player, but I was shocked to see people refusing to take edits--seriously continuing the scene even though they'd obviously been edited, or making frustrated noises once they did get edited. And there were a lot of people initiating with a lack of something. The edit thing was waaaaaay worse, though. It was actually painful to watch.

I only knew a few people in the show and I felt awkward telling them what I thought went wrong (even though they asked). But I couldn't lie. It was a cringe-fest. Maybe it's just that I've had recent classes and these people have been doing improv so long that I think they rarely, if ever, take classes anymore. So these fundamentals aren't as fresh to them as they are to me. Also Delaney talked about this sort of stuff so much. And maybe it's also what I took away from his classes--maybe other people didn't take the same lessons away with them. Everything's so subjective.

I was really pleased with Harold night this week. It's been so long since I attended, plus it was extra-special to see it with Sarah. It was cool to see it from her perspective--she was trying to find the form of the Harold in each show. They're not always so obvious. And it was good for my spirit to be in the theatre again. I miss being there. Even the musty smell. I have to take another class soon. Especially since my Gausus class is ending soon. I have loved the things I've learned from her, but it's all character work, which, while incredibly valuable, is not as fullfilling as doing a Harold for me. I miss seeing a scene through to its fruition and then re-visiting it as the show goes on. There's a great deal of satisfaction in it.

I am feeling hopeful about getting a job. My new resume will be done by tonight and I'll be targeting places I really want to work. But if that fails, I'm going to take some crappy retail job, so that I can at least have some weekdays off and intern in exchange for classes. I really want to take another class from Brister or Delaney. They are my demi heroes.

My dad will co-sign on an apt for us, so will the boy's dad, so we will be able to find our nest--just as soon as I get a steady job--no more temp bullshit. Life is good.

Today's lyrics are from Robyn, his love songs are the least obvious, and my most favourite. This one's called One Long Pair of Eyes

On the black Fellini sails
Tattered rags that hangs on nails reminds me
You the mistress of your chair
I the sergeant of your hair - you blind me
You turn me on like light
A liquid silver light
That emanates inside of you, decorates the room around and
Just before the curtains part for dawn
And everything's gone

She had one long pair of eyes
She had one long pair or eyes between her
So she could see you
 
#32
Following Scarlet's Walk

I have been doing a lot of soul searching. I know what would make me the happiest. I need to write the next book. I need to get the grant money together and write the story/ies that have been brewing in me for too long.

I spent today at the main branch of the library with Jane. I went to use the internet and get some writing done and she does a lot of her copy editing there. I love that building—it fills me with awe and reverence. I realized that I’ve never felt closer to my spiritual self (indoors) than in a library. I love the smells and the shelves and the rows of books that fill them. I love all the potential—all the uncharted lands waiting for me. It reminded me of when I was a kid and spent one summer checking out every single book on pirates and sailing exploration I could find.

I knew the only way to begin my quest was to write down my shorthand fragments of stories about my Tia Emerita and her parents and siblings. I finished musing on these ideas and it occurred to me that if I wanted to write these interlocking stories about Panama, then I needed to get more certain about the history—about the time before I lived there. I wondered if the reading room we were in had encyclopedias—I wasn’t sure where to start. I saw a lot of foreign language dictionaries and wandered over to the other side of the room. It was like divination. I can not explain what drew me to a particular section and shelf, but there in front of me were Who’s Who books on Latin America. And of course there were a few about Panama. A couple of the books were published in the mid ‘40s to the mid ‘50s and one was from a few years ago. I pulled them all down and sat at the giant oak table across from Jane.

As I looked through the first one, I alternately felt fevered and chilled—it brought up so many memories and questions and I was getting excited like I haven’t in years. Panama is such a small country and yet there were so many family names. Then I noticed that a lot of the names repeated. And then I started seeing last names of kids I went to school with. And then the essential form of my book came to me—it isn’t enough to fictionalize my great-aunt’s life and tell her story. The real story is also my story. I only came across one man who was definitely related to me, in the book from the ‘50s, but that one had pictures and I knew his face, from the faces of my family and that was all I needed. My book will be about then and now, the faces of my family and the changes on that tiny isthmus in the last hundred years.

I feel so relieved. It doesn’t matter what shit job I do now, because this is the work I choose to do. And everything else is just to pay rent. I am the most at peace I have been in a long time. I did hours of research and then headed over to the thrift shop for Peter’s birthday party. I love those guys. They are walking, screaming stereotypes of aging nelly Broadway fags and I couldn’t be more at home if I tried. They are kindred spirits. Keith is an amazing tenor and sang an aria that made everyone tear up. They’d made Peter put on a laurel wreath that kept slipping rakishly over one ear. I told him it made him look Puckish and then launched into Puck’s longest speech from Midsummer. It was perfectly lovely. The cake had masses of violet sugar flowers all over the top and sides and was dense and chocolate inside. We drank red wine and offered it to customers as well as the steady stream of friends, who came, bringing gifts.

The boy was waiting impatiently for me to get home. We talked and snuggled for a long time. We have the place to ourselves for 5 glorious days. I love the way he won’t wait for me to get comfy before getting me into his arms. I love the little surprises we prepare for each other and the millions of tiny considerations. I love the way it gets better and better. At first when he said forever, I couldn’t quite believe it, I’m just too much of a pessimist, but as time goes on, I know it and trust it more and more. We are ridiculously sentimental with each other and it seems like we get more so with passing weeks/months. I feel the most satisfied I ever have in a relationship. He says he’s never felt so sure. Me neither.

I am beginning to seriously wonder whether or not I can handle having kids—mainly because I think I’d worry about them too much. When I was staying at Jane’s this week, and she didn’t come home and didn’t call, I spent hours afraid that the worst had happened to her. I imagined every awful scenario and couldn’t sleep—it was so out of character for her not to at least call. But after a horrible night of dreadful visions, it just turned out that she’d drank a lot on too little food, and passed out at a friend’s house. Hence no phone call—she wasn’t awake to call. But I sweated and trembled and worried about my dear friend. And some time around 5 am, I realized this would be soooooo much worse, were it my own child.

We went to the last free screening of Napoleon Dynamite last night and Jon Heder was there, in character, and answering random questions in that voice of his. We got tons of free stuff, including some sweet pins and stickers and new t-shirts. It was good to meet (face to face) with some folks from the board who are buddies with the boy, but it was fantastic to see John with them. I haven’t seen him in months, since the end of my last Delaney class, and he is so dear to me. Steve came again and it was good to see him, too. We were talking about Dave’s Spank show, and Steve’s got one coming up in December. John is also in a show—the Mullaney 4P that everyone I know seems to be in. I have no excuse not to go. It’s been fucking wonderful to see Harold night lately. I had no idea how much I missed that. Dave’s show is Monday (tech rehearsal tonight at 1:30 am—ugh) and I couldn’t be more thrilled for him. This is going to be incredible.

We are having the party for Lovey at the end of this month and I have a special surprise that I have to plan—I hope I can pull it off in time. Sarah is coming up for the party and Michele and Christina are going to help me round up improv peeps from across the land. We’re having a little dinner party this weekend that I’m pulling out the stops for. Sabrina’s coming back for the month of July, which always means debauchery and hilarity and Amanda is leaving, which means debauchery and sadness. I am out of control busy with all the plannings, but I thrive on this sort of pressure. Now all I have to do is write some persuasive grant proposals, and my life is exactly where I want it to be.

I almost forgot, tonight I went up to the roof for a cig and there were the most amazing magenta and fuchsia flower petals carpeting the tar and gravel. It was bizarre because there are no trees anywhere nearby that could have scattered them, yet there they were. I couldn’t help but take it as a good omen—a small message that I am on the right track—and I was grateful for the comfort that idea gave me.

Today’s lyrics are from Tori and have always had resonance for me about the stories I want to write:

I will follow
Her on her path
Scarlet's Walk
through the violets
just tell your
Gods for me
all debts are off this year
they're free to leave
yes they're free
to leave
 
#33
I am that merry wanderer of the night

It’s the wee hours of the morning. The sunset tonight was gorgeous—rolls of clouds turned crimson and gold—due west from our rooftop perch. The weather has been perfect the last 2 days—breezy and sunny.

It was my last Gausus class today. I loved playing with those people and wish that group could have stayed together much longer. Christina kept us grounded in small choices that informed our characters. We did a lot of work in silence—just making eye contact with each other—then we’d tell our scene partner who we thought they were and what they were feeling. Then we did 10 minute scenes, which felt incredibly short and comfortable compared to many 3 minute scenes I’ve been in. Christina reminded us that we need to know WHY we are doing improv and to consciously make it a goal to feel good about the work we do. I had a couple of my favourite scenes I’ve been in today, and feel so lucky to have had that experience with those people.

When class ended, we all sort of hung out in the stairway, no one really wanted to part ways. I felt so tender about those boys—they each have such a unique way into their improv and are so talented. When we walked out, waiting for me as a surprise were Sarah, Michele and my love. Turns out that Michele and one of the guys from my class, Chris, once started a theatre company together. We all walked to the subway together and I didn’t want to leave my class mates, but reluctantly did. Then my dearie ducks and I walked over to my favourite Cuban place and had my favourite foods. It is so good to have the gang together in person. Mo came back to the apartment with us to smoke and hang when Sarah got on the train.

I’m psyched to make dinner for Michele, Marc and Jane. I may even get drunk for once. I’m probably making Dijon chicken and the yummy green bean dish I used to make in SF. My last kitchen was so tiny that it was nearly impossible to cook for a group, but I’ve been dying to make some of my old recipes. Also, it gives me an excuse to deep clean the apartment. I might even buy some flowering plants for the roof, since it’s summer and I love to be up there so much. I used to buy cut flowers all the time until I worked at the plant store. I’ve been at Jane’s a lot lately and she always pampers herself with sweet sprigs of delphinium or tiger lilies or tulips. I miss my giant tulip vase—I can’t remember if it’s in storage or if my sister absconded with it.

The tech rehearsal for the Spank show went well. The show’s in 2 days and I’m getting more and more excited. Dave has worked incredibly hard on this and I am honoured to be a part of it. We used rough cuts of the videos (which I bet he’s still editing as I write this) and I laughed so hard at the Twain one. It’s fucking crazy—in the best possible way—and I love the way Dave knows these characters and knows where to push his own limits.

While we were backstage, waiting for the improv jam to finish and going over the script, Reynolds came back stage and I couldn’t believe how much I’ve missed him. We don’t get too much of a chance to hang out, but I’m so fond of him, and he is really my favourite coach. He told me to get back into the practice group and I have missed it greatly, so I probably will soon. Jon also asked me to join a group he’s putting together, which Eason’s coaching (another one of my favourite people to work with) and I’m thinking I should do it, especially now that class is over.

I didn’t get back home until reeeeeeally late and the boy was asleep, curled around my pillow. He’s in there, doing that now. It’s incredibly sweet, really. He feels me climb into bed and, even in deep sleep, he pulls me into him like a man drowning. I feel dreamy much of the time. How could I not? He shows me how fucking considerate he is every day, in hundreds of ways, but now that he’s starting to raise money for cancer, I am so deeply moved—it’s hard to even express how much. At first he wanted to raise the money to fight the sort of cancer I had, but I convinced him that it was probably better to give it to Gilda’s House, where it would go towards support and services for people with all kinds of cancers, and their families. But it’s more than his effort for me that I am moved by; it’s that when he cares, it’s all the way. He’s the most true-blue fella a gal could want. I am so grateful for his love and devotion and for his creation of the word gayballs.

He played this song for me tonight (and I could have died because I’ve been looking for the original for years), so, from Moody’s Mood For Love:

There I go, there I go, there I go, there I go
Pretty baby, you are the soul that snaps my control
 
#34
Pabst Blue Ribbon Light

I am on pins and needles for the show tonight. I will be forever grateful to my posse for all the bumps. I am going to take a nice, meditative bath and relax before I go to the theatre tonight. I’m going to read the script for the thousandth time and believe that I have all the cues memorized. I will remember to enjoy the show, while Dave is performing, rather than spend the whole time worrying. I would only be worrying about myself, by the way, not Dave—he’s got this stuff down—it’s part of him. I just hope I don’t screw anything up.

After tonight, I can relax a little. I’m also psyched to see Sara Lane’s UCB debut later this week. I know she’s a little anxious, of course we all were. But I know it will be fine—of all the shows I’ve done, level one was the one I enjoyed being in the most—it’s when you get to play without judging yourself against the knowledge you will accrue. What I mean is something like what James Eason explained the first day of our level 2 class. He said that there are 4 stages of learning. And I’m a little fuzzy on his exact words, but I think he said something like: The first stage is being ignorant of what you need to learn to be a good improvisor, including the “rules” of improv, but you enjoy what you are doing (ignorance is bliss and you’re not in your head too much—you just play). The second stage is recognizing that you don’t have the skills yet, while becoming aware of what it is that makes for good improv (you start to get into your head as you learn). The third stage is getting some of the skills, but being hyper-aware of what you don’t know (the most in your head stage). The fourth stage is once you’ve learned a fair amount—enough so you’re comfortable—you let go of “the rules” and you just play (finally—you get to get out of your head again).<O:p</O:p

I have to get ready for tonight and the boy will be home soon. I’ll write more later—if I see James, I’ll ask what the titles for each stage of learning are—I know I have butchered them terribly.


Today's lyrics are inspired by my dear friend Brian and his disappointment--from Big Fish Ensemble's Pabst Blue Ribbon Light:

In the bar across the street
there's a Pabst Blue Ribbon Light
it blinks into my bedroom window
and keeps me up at night
When the weekend comes around
I walk into that bar
and I drink bottom-shelf tequila
from a mason jar

And now you wanna know
Why am I so sad
Maybe I'm in love with you
and you don't love me back
Maybe I'm in love with you
and you don't love me back

In a dream there was something
in a window that I wanted
and I reached into my pockets
which were otherwise empty
and I looked at the clock
on the Chase Manhattan building
then I looked at my reflection
disolving in the shade
Hey
She's like a bird
she won't sit still for long
she's gonna fly away
high above the clouds
and meanwhile I'm down
down to my last subway token
and it's not gonna take me very far
it's not gonna take me very far
 
#35
Twas like Thunder

We had a huge turn-out for Dave’s show and the audience loved him. I knew they would. He is so fucking funny and such a pro. It was amazing to watch him discover things in that material, which he knows so well. I honestly couldn’t be more proud of him if I’d birthed him myself.

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Alex and Jane both came, along with the whole posse of people who knew Dave before they knew me—Mo, Leigh, Marc, Kelly, Carl and tons of other <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:eek:ffice:smarttags" /><st1:place>Gotham</st1:place> people. We headed over to Triple Crown afterwards for drinks and burgers and hilarity. There was a terribly embarrassing moment when Alex grabbed my left hand and asked about our rings. Dave was clearly uncomfortable with the way Alex asked (I believe he might secretly be a robot and uneasy around human interaction) and then the boy started grinning sheepishly and twisting his around, like he does whenever anyone comments on it.

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I forgot to write about the dinner party. It was really great to cook several courses, although I did cheat with the grasshopper pie—it’s so damned easy to make. As usual, Jane, who is the tiniest little thing, ate more than anyone else—including two pieces of pie. We hung out on the roof a bit, but it was actually cold and windy (unlike it’s been the last couple of days), so we spent most of the evening indoors. The boy is actually eating the leftovers right now.

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I am starting to write the show for our ensemble cast—they are brilliant. I can’t talk about it in the journal, cos it’s top secret until we have it together. It’s a funny idea and someone else is likely to hit on it anyway, but there’s no need to give anyone else a head start. I only know that Jed and Thunder together on stage is going to make me laugh til I cry. I won’t be able to be in the show—I’ll have to direct it only—because I can’t imagine keeping a straight face while it’s happening.

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I also have an outline for one of the chapters in my new book. I am so excited to begin my work. Cris said to me the other day that he can’t believe that I stopped writing for so long. How could I explain the intense series of events that stopped me from writing and has now come around full circle to bring me back to it? He was there when I got back from <st1:country-region><st1:place>France</st1:place></st1:country-region>—he saw what that time in my life did to me—so on some level he knows, but doesn’t really understand. It would be like him quitting music because of some traumatic event—he can’t even fathom anything that could make that happen.

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We have such a crazy busy week ahead of us. Sarah will be in town all weekend and we are taking Jed’s dad out for Father’s day. I’ve got to get all my junk from Jane’s house and decide whether or not to start bringing stuff down from his parent’s house yet. I am excited to hang with his parents—they are fantastic people and it’s been way too long.

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I’ve been getting out and seeing more shows lately, but I can’t make myself schlep down to the theatre tonight. It’s too fucking muggy out there and we have the a/c, ice cream, some darling little outfits I couldn’t help but buy today, the new Simpsons box set and the new Beastie Boys album in here. I think the improv will have to be neglected this week, but I fully intend to be there next week.

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I’ve also got some decisions to make about the practice group. I just got an email saying that they only want people who can commit to being a performance team, which is something I don’t know if I can do, at this moment. But I don’t want to give up playing with them forever and I miss the hell out of Reynolds. Then there’s Jon and his invitation to join the group he’s starting up—I want to play with those guys too. And then there’s my original “dream team” practice group, from which I always hear rumbles about getting back together, but I don’t know if it will ever actually happen again. I’m in too much flux right now to make any of these decisions. I will give myself past the busy week to decide.

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In honour of that last paragraph, today’s lyrics will be from Ruben Blades, fellow Panamanian:

Decisiones (Ave María), cada día (Si señor).
Alguien pierde, alguien gana ¡Ave María!
Decisiones, todo cuesta.
Salgan y hagan sus apuestas,
¡Ciudadanía!
 
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#36
Summer in the city

Dave has been given another slot at the UCB--I'll be producing it again, and though it will be daunting (we only have 9 days to put it together), I'm really excited and confident we can do it. Again it's a one-time slot, and again we'll have to promote it ourselves, but it's a great idea. Dave is a genius. We have to pull together a bunch of costumes/props on very little money, so I have my work cut out for me. This show is called Twain vs. Zodiac and it will feature some incredibly funny stuff--videos, sketches and guest appearances.

I splurged on new clothes this week and now I feel guilty, but truly, I needed this stuff. It's summer and I had to have some new lightweight clothes. I've been having a hard time shopping lately--I hate the retro-'80s stuff out there. I hated it when I lived through the '80s the first time. I am especially disgusted by the skirts that cling to your butt and then flounce out in ruffles below it. Why the fuck did those come back? They are ugly and look bad on everyone. There are some other skirts, which are exact replicas of the pleated, heavy knit fabric ones that I also hated in high school. They always seemed tacky to me-- something about the jersey material. I'm not thrilled with any of that crap, but I found some adorable stripey tank tops, which remind me of being a kid and some sweet, flouncy hippy-looking cotton blouses, which feel so comfy in this weather.

Today is the worst for humidity. It creates a frizz-factor of 98% for my hair. It's ok, actually, it reminds me of Panama and Miami and I'm all about the nostalgia lately. I am excited to start the book. It's going to be huge. It will span more than a hundred years of the lives of my father's family and their travels in the world. It will be about Panama, Italy, England, New York, Miami and San Francisco. I am incredibly happy to begin, what Cris called my life's work. Now if only I can find my steady day-job....

I have been feeling really annoyed lately by people preaching at me--particularly those who are inconsistent in the way they mete out their sermons. I am entitled to my opinions and the expression of them. I refuse to let another dictate what is appropriate for me to say--on these boards or anywhere. I have bitten my lip often, when there were many outright lies I could have repudiated, so I am not a stranger to self-control. But I have my limits and I get to decide when and how I will respond. I won't be chastised into behaving differently, either. I stopped listening to other people's didactic, controlling bullshit a long time ago. If I want to hear that tone, I'll go read Krishnamurti. At least he applied his theories equally.

I am going to do a mosaic piece for Alex and a different one for Chris, but I really need a workshop space. I miss having the studio in the meat packing district. I miss Blake, too, and his insane vision. The art we made was amazing. And I loved the parades we used to stage. We would create costumes and banners and ceremonies that were for the events we decided to stage. We celebrated women one year on the festival day for the virgin of guadalupe, and the turnout was amazing. I made a giant mermaid banner and wore a yellow tennis dress that I bought at a thrift store, on which I printed "soccer mom" with block letters and acrylic paint. I remember that was the year Bjork was pregnant and living in a tent on the roof of her and Matthew Barney's building in the neighborhood. We played her music a lot while we were creating the installation and one snowy night we roamed the streets, calling up to the rooftops for her to come join us. She was there in spirit.

In honour of her:

if you ever get close to a human
and human behaviour
be ready to get confused

there's definitely no logic
to human behaviour
but yet so irresistible

there's no map
to human behaviour

they're terribly moody
then all of a sudden turn happy
but, oh, to get involved in the exchange
of human emotions is ever so satisfying

there's no map
and a compass
woulden't help at all

human behaviour
 
#37
Closer to fine

Today, I love the world. How could I not? I have the greatest, most incredible people in my life and the prospect of a job I actually want, at a company I could see myself at for years, making more money than I could have ever hoped for. Mo, I will never forget all you've done for me--I love you dearly.

I talked to my dad today. It's been a long time. Ever since I disengaged from our tumultuous relationship for 2 years, we've slowly been building something I can deal with. And I talk to him like a person, now. It's pretty great. I'm not afraid to be utterly myself. He said some very nice things to me--was supportive in ways he couldn't access in himself before now, and I'm proud that he is growing. He basically echoed the carpe diem theme that I've been living by lately and I felt really good after we spoke.

This is the craziest week ever. So much prep for the show, for the interviews, for the book I'm begining to write, and for the boy's birthday party. I am reeling from all of it, but in a good way.

There's so much I want to write, but time does not permit. Soon. In the meantime, the lyrics are from the Indigo Girls:

I'm trying to tell you something about my life
Maybe give me insight between black and white
The best thing you've ever done for me
Is to help me take my life less seriously, it's only life after all
Well darkness has a hunger that's insatiable
And lightness has a call that's hard to hear
I wrap my fear around me like a blanket
I sailed my ship of safety till I sank it, I'm crawling on your shore.

I went to the doctor, I went to the mountains
I looked to the children, I drank from the fountain
There's more than one answer to these questions
pointing me in crooked line
The less I seek my source for some definitive
The closer I am to fine.
 
#38
I am, without a doubt, the luckiest girl alive. Ok, so I’m a little tipsy from the birthday dinner that Jed’s parents took us to, but that doesn’t diminish the joy I’m feeling these days.
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Somehow, we pulled it off—the show that is. We had a small glitch with the projector, but Dave was amazing as usual. It was hard to trust that the cast would be as funny as he is, but it worked, and when someone forgot a line Dave wrote, he knew how to make it part of his own lines and still deliver the hilarity. Truly, he is a genius. And Chris Parnell stayed after Carl interviewed him, and watched Twain vs. Zodiac. He was not the most charismatic person I’ve seen as a guest on Inside Joke, but he was sincere and nice. And I told him he was incredibly sweet to stay for Dave’s show. He said it was his pleasure, that Dave was truly funny, and that he laughed really hard. I wasn’t star-struck, but I found myself loving him for being so cool. Still, I couldn’t bring myself to hang about and heap praises upon him (like many others seemed to be happy doing that night in the green room).
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And the party was fun—at McManus of course. Sarah came up from <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:eek:ffice:smarttags" /><st1:State><st1:place>Delaware</st1:place></st1:State> and the whole gang was there. Tom is one of the funniest people ever (and so fucking nice) and it was really good to meet Jim. I had a tech rehearsal that night and couldn’t really party, but had a few kamikazes early on. Jane stayed later than I expected her to, especially with her intense deadlines, but I’m glad. And since it was Pride, we all were saying, Happy Gay Pride, see? In weird Edward G. Robinson voices. At tech, Leigh Angel helped me make the druid cloaks that I’d designed and I was surprised at how good they looked on stage. She is a wonderful person and that’s another thing to be grateful to Mo for, meeting Leigh.
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After the tech rehearsal finished, I headed over to the UCB offices to watch the boy play poker. Ali was there—I miss her. I promised her that I will become part of her chick reinforcements at the poker table. I’m a bit intimidated, though. My old poker night was penny ante, and we didn’t take it seriously. It was just an excuse for us to hang and drink and smoke cigars. These guys are for real. I didn’t say much while they played, just watched, but I got the feeling there would be no chatting and hanging, and that takes some of the fun out of it for me. I had a cig with Jed at the table and Mullaney said, “Not only does your girlfriend sit at the poker table, but she’s smoking too” and Jed didn’t miss a beat in saying, “Yes, she is really beautiful, Kevin.” Kevin got this adorable, embarrassed, sheepish look on his face and said, “That wasn’t quite how I meant it, even though she is quite lovely.” It was a great moment. I think he (Kevin) is actually rather shy, despite his experience and skills as an improviser. I find that quite endearing.
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The research on the <st1:country-region><st1:place>Panama</st1:place></st1:country-region> book becomes more and more precious to me. Especially since I feel the time crunch coming upon me. I hope I get the job I’ve been interviewing for, but I don’t want to lose momentum on the book. The more I research, the richer the subject becomes. There are so many weird coincidences that have transpired while researching it that I can’t help but feel that this is what I’m meant to do. I want to thank the gods of the NY public library system for having exactly the books that I found and keep finding in the most random ways.
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It’s official. Jon’s moving out and Jed and I are taking his room. Jed’s old room will be my office/storage for his outrageous collection of comics. I am going to paint it a pale green colour, which makes me think of fecundity and creation, and set up my computer in there. Our room will be a soothing blue and will go nicely with my Shabby Chic accessories (my sister bought them—I would never spend a thousand bucks on a duvet cover, but since I’ve got ‘em, I’m gonna enjoy ‘em). I’m going to make it a sanctuary for us to nestle in. Jed says this is it. We’re not moving for a long fucking time, so I am going to make it a beautiful home. I am thrilled about the roof. It will be my escape place.
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He told me again last night that I am the one. That this is forever. That he has never been this in love or happy or satisfied or sure. And I, my friends, am convinced he’s right and I’ve never been happier either. Even our parents are for this (although I think my dad and his wife just want grandkids that may never exist) and say to go for it. <o:p></o:p>

Life is short and they are right.
 
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Independence Day

I am getting ridiculously domestic, now that we have a home to cozy up. This is an incredible apartment and I am so excited to make it warm and comfy. I will paint when Jon moves out and I'm thinking of re-finishing a lot of the furniture--it's too IKEA/college student looking. I have a lot of experience working with furniture--distressing and decoupaging it--and once we have the colours for the rooms finalized, I'm going to town. His parents have a basement full of furniture that we can pick and choose from--I'll probably do a lot of the work up there. We are also going through our stuff, re-organizing and getting rid of junk. We are going to start consolidating DVDs, etc, since we have so fucking many duplicates. There's a lot of work to be done and I am practically blissful to be doing it.

We have a good life together. It's this fantastic blend of loving, playing, laughing, and so much consideration and respect. I am so grateful to be in a relationship that is drama-free and unconditional and filled with trust. We can talk about anything. I have not felt this sort of peace nor loved this much before.

GAYBALLS. But in the best possible way. As I write, he brings me small treats and tempts me away from writing. We tussle and laugh and I send him back to watch the Yankees trounce the Mets. Every now and then I hear him down the hall, "Good-bye!" as another ball gets snicked out of the stadium. I have never been into baseball, but there's something little-boy-endearing about a grown man who loves the sport, and the Yankees, so much. I go to games with him and enjoy them--I used to be bored at Oakland A's games, but moderately thrilled watching the SF Giants. I got a lot of free Giants tix when I worked at the bank. I mostly let my assistant go--he was another one of those man-boys into sports, but I went to enough games to feel like they were my team. How does that happen? How do I care little for the sport and STILL find a way to root for a team?

We are going to sit on the roof tomorrow night. I'll make dinner and we'll drink a drop or two of wine and watch the fireworks go off. I get really excited by fireworks, I always have, as a child I would beg to go anywhere they were being lit. When I lived in Miami, my friends and I would go to Miami Beach and lay back in the sand and watch them be set off into the night, while the Beach Boys played their yearly free concert (these were the begining of the John Stamos years--shudder). I'd watch the sky and feel as thrilled and shaky as if I were five years old.

I wanted to post lyrics here, but Afternoon Delight is too much. And other firecracker songs are about a quick explosion and burning out right away, which isn't really in keeping with my mood or this entry (although once I start on my F9/11 posting the mood can do nothing but change....)

I think I'll actually go with Creedence on this one, since as of late, I've been pondering what it means to be a patriot. My definition isn't the same as someone else's may be, but I fiercly love this country and I feel angry about and ashamed of things that have been done in my name. I spent 7 years going to Department of Defense Schools in the Rep. of Panama and I have my own take on who serves where in the military, which again, may not be another person's view. I was deeply moved by Mr. Moore's movie. I cried through most of it and shook with anger at much of what I had to see. We let it happen--all of it. It inspires me to get out and fight for change--to register people to vote and to help any org that opposes Bush.

From Fortunate Son,



Some folks are born made to wave the flag,

Ooh, they're red, white and blue.

And when the band plays "Hail to the chief",

Ooh, they point the cannon at you, Lord,



It ain't me, it ain't me, I ain't no senator's son, son.

It ain't me, it ain't me; I ain't no fortunate one, no,Yeah!



Some folks are born silver spoon in hand,

Lord, don't they help themselves, oh.

But when the taxman comes to the door,Lord,

the house looks like a rummage sale, yes,



It ain't me, it ain't me, I ain't no millionaire's son, no.

It ain't me, it ain't me; I ain't no fortunate one, no.



Some folks inherit star spangled eyes,Ooh,

they send you down to war, Lord,

And when you ask them, "How much should we give?"

Ooh, they only answer More! more! more! yoh,



It ain't me, it ain't me, I ain't no military son, son.

It ain't me, it ain't me; I ain't no fortunate one, one.

It ain't me, it ain't me, I ain't no fortunate one, no no no,

It ain't me, it ain't me, I ain't no fortunate son, no no no,

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#40
Those summer nights are callin'

We spent the last few days stoned in love. Jesus, it’s bad when I dip back into the music of my junior high days to express how I’m feeling, but it’s like being drugged. We do make excursions out into the world, but then scurry back to our air conditioned room and collapse on the bed. I have never laughed so much. We have this awesome way of teasing and playing, that only rarely goes too far, and then we laugh at how silly it is to take anything said in that vein seriously.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:eek:ffice:eek:ffice" /><o:p> </o:p>
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We organized more today, got lots done and moved the rest of my stuff here from Jane’s house. I’ll miss being in that gorgeous building, but I’m quite happy to have a home in <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:eek:ffice:smarttags" /><st1:City><st1:place>Chelsea</st1:place></st1:City>. It was loads of work, moving, and as a reward I made a meatloaf with special secret ingredients (no, not Lipton’s onion soup mix, although that’s in there, too) and we ate zucchini and chocolate-covered pretzels. We shopped for all kinds of stuff tonight (mostly healthy) and I’m going to cook more tomorrow so that we’ll have leftovers during the week. The boy likes to take things I make to work with him, and I don’t care how Suzy Homemaker it is of me, I like to know he’s eating food that’s good for him. We both have to drink more water—I’ve really been thirsting for it lately.

Then, once it was dark, we climbed the wrought iron spiral staircase to the roof, and watched the awesome fireworks around the city. The ones closest to us were obscured by a building, but the building next to it reflected every blast against its panes. As we stood up there, our arms wrapped around each other, we started singing the national anthem. It was actually quite moving. I love my boy. Then all of a sudden, there were streamers and bits of confetti floating down around us. It was a little magical (and a little scary) surprise. The explosions were echoing off the buildings and fireworks finales were happening all around <st1:City><st1:place>Manhattan</st1:place></st1:City>. There was a moment when it seemed quite ominous. We decided to go back inside.

There are fireworks and then there are fireworks.

The boy is about to take a class and I feel that I must do more improv, but I’m still in limbo about my job and don’t think it’s feasible to pay for a class right now. I want to have the stability of work before I lay that kind of money out. I want to get back into the practice group this month—I miss it terribly.

Speaking of missing terribly, my parents and my sister will be in <st1:country-region><st1:place>England</st1:place></st1:country-region> at the same time so they’re getting together and I’m sad not to be there with them. I’ve got so many destinations and so little money, but all the time in the world. I need a bit of balance with the money and the rest will sort itself. I’m going to sell most of my DVDs, since the boy has almost all of them, and start a holiday fund. Last year I missed my yearly pilgrimage to the <st1:place>Lake District</st1:place>, I don’t plan on letting another Fall go by without getting there again.

Anyway, today's lyrics are obviously from Journey (Steve Perry's warbling could really affect me when I was 13--probably still could on the right occaision....)
Those crazy nights, I do remember in my youth
I do recall, those were the best times, most of all
In the heat with a blue jean girl
Burnin' love comes once in a lifetime
She found me singing by the rail road track
Took me home, we danced by moonlight

Those summer nights are callin',
stone in love
Can't help myself I'm fallin'
stone in love

Old dusty roads, led to the river
Runnin' slow
She pulled me down, and in clover
We'd go 'round
In the heat with a blue jean girl
Burnin' love comes once in a lifetime
Oo the memories never fade away
Golden girl, I'll keep you forever.

Those summer nights are callin',
stone in love
Can't help myself I'm fallin'
stone in love
 
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